内容简介

这本书诞生在咨询室的沙发上，围绕着5个深受亲子关系困扰的家庭展开。两位作者开创性地采用元认知思维养育法，陪伴这些家庭脱离冲突、逼仄的负面状态，建立起积极、温暖的健康关系。

昼夜颠倒，陷入睡眠障碍的孩子，隐藏在背后的厌学抵触情绪，是否源自父亲带有操控性的捏泥人养育方式？频频失去理智，对孩子暴力相向的母亲，她难道不爱自己的孩子吗？叛逆的孩子，争锋相对的父女，青春期问题是否不可避免？父母对孩子非黑即白的“贴标签”，愈演愈烈的手足问题，多子家庭该如何平衡孩子之间的矛盾？抑郁、偏激、自我伤害——脆弱又尖锐的孩子，尽心尽力维系生活的父亲，陷入绝望边缘的单亲家庭，究竟是哪里出了错？

作者在本书中基于元认知思维养育法的理念体系，结合这5个家庭的真实案例来分别阐述自我内核思维、流动思维、软性外沿思维、心域思维和平等思维这5种正念思维在亲子关系中的应用，以图引领内卷时代下的家长们如其所是地探索自己与孩子的真实需求，厘清矛盾背后的问题所在，修正亲子关系中存在的种种扭曲和失控，从而实现科学养育，让健康幸福的亲子关系成为孩子日后人生路上内心的一罐金子。

作者简介

徐莉

国家二级心理咨询师/曾任大学副教授

毕业于哈尔滨工业大学，拥有大学任教16年、心理咨询10年的从业经验。专注于青少年常见问题，包括厌学、辍学网瘾及社交障碍等，同时擅长亲子关系咨询，在家庭养育方法上有自己独到的解决方法和实战经验，在客户中享有很高口碑。

明淙

资深心理咨询师/心理学讲师

毕业于常春藤名校宾夕法尼亚大学，长期致力于传播科学心理学理念，并创新提出一套思维方法，在改善焦虑、失眠、拖延等问题，稳定情绪，提升内驱力和自控力，找到幸福感等方面有显著效果。

Content introduction

Born on a couch in a counseling room, the book revolves around five families who are deeply troubled by parent-child relationships. The two authors pioneered the metacognitive thinking parenting method to accompany these families out of the negative state of conflict and narrow, and establish a positive, warm and healthy relationship.

The day and night reversal, the children who fall into sleep disorders, the hidden behind the weariness of learning resistance, is it derived from the father's manipulative clay figure upbringing? A mother who frequently loses her mind and acts violently against her children, does she not love her children? Rebellious children, warring fathers and daughters, are puberty problems inevitable? Parents' "labeling" of children in black and white, the growing problem of hands and feet, how to balance the contradictions between children in families with many children? Depression, intolerance, self-harm - the fragile and sharp child, the father struggling to hold on to life, the single parent family on the brink of despair - what went wrong?

In this book, based on the concept system of metacognitive thinking parenting method and combined with the real cases of these five families, the author explains the application of self-inner thinking, fluid thinking, soft peripheral thinking, mental domain thinking and equal thinking in the parent-child relationship, in order to guide parents in the era of inner volume to explore the real needs of themselves and their children as they are. Clarify the problems behind the contradictions, correct all kinds of distortions and out-of-control in the parent-child relationship, so as to achieve scientific parenting, and make the healthy and happy parent-child relationship become a pot of gold in the heart of the child's future life.

About the author

Xu Li

National second-level psychological consultant/former university associate professor

He graduated from Harbin Institute of Technology and has 16 years of teaching experience and 10 years of psychological counseling experience. Focus on the common problems of teenagers, including weariness, dropout, Internet addiction and social disorders, while good at parent-child relationship counseling, family parenting methods have their own unique solutions and practical experience, enjoy a high reputation among customers.

Gurgling of light

Senior Psychologist/Psychology lecturer

Graduated from the Ivy League University of Pennsylvania, he has long been committed to spreading the concept of scientific psychology, and put forward a set of innovative thinking methods, which have significant effects in improving anxiety, insomnia, procrastination and other problems, stabilizing emotions, improving drive and self-control, and finding happiness.