作品简介

　　当你遭遇不公平的时候；

　　当你忍受粗鲁无礼的对待和服务的时候；

　　当你的伴侣拒绝做家务的时候；

　　当你的领导和同事布置了不属于你的工作给你的时候

　　......

　　面对以上情况，你可以勇敢地说不，本书就是为了帮助你学会说不，在任何你需要拒绝的情况下，你都可以自信地说不，而且不需要任何理由。不用再去担心别人是否会不喜欢你说的话，你的每一次说不，都是在帮助你逐步成为一个坚定果敢的人。

　　坚定果敢不仅意味着捍卫自己的权利，还意味着充分考虑他人的感受，并经常鼓励他人也要表现得坚定果敢。一个自信、冷静、坚定果敢的人也是善良而体贴的。

　　当你变得坚定果敢时，你的个性并不会改变——你只是变得更像你一直想要成为的那种人了而已。当你变得坚定果敢时，你会停止担忧，你的生活会更加轻松——因为你知道你可以在事情发生时及时做出处理。

　　学会坚定果敢地表达自己的观点，不再去担心别人是否会不喜欢你说的话，你会感到更加自信和快乐。你不再会因为忧惧说“不”可能导致的后果而违心地说“是”，你将成为更真实的自己。

　　作者：

　　苏·哈德菲尔德（Sue Hadfield），在综合性学校教了20年英语，并在学校里为学生、教职员工及家长开设关于坚定果敢的课程和研讨会。在过去的十多年里，她一直在萨塞克斯大学和社区组织向成年人授课，内容涉及坚定果敢、创造性写作、学习技能、职业和个人发展等。她认为坚定果敢是幸福、成功而充实的人生的一个重要组成部分。

　　吉尔·哈森（Gill Hasson），一直与拥有不同背景和处于不同境况下的人合作。她的主要动力源自她相信人们有能力积极地改变自己的思维方式——无论是关于生活、他人，还是关于自己。除了在布莱顿开设有关个人发展的成人教育课程之外，她还在萨塞克斯大学教授学习技能。吉尔向学龄前儿童、青年人、社会工作者以及家长提供儿童和青少年发展方面的培训。

　　译者：

　　汪幼枫，华东师范大学外语学院翻译系副教授。译有《清醒地活》《女孩，你已足够好》《学会如何学习》等作品。

Introduction of works

When you experience injustice;

When you put up with rude treatment and service;

When your partner refuses to do housework;

When your boss or colleagues give you work that isn't yours

...

In the face of these situations, you can bravely say no, this book is designed to help you learn to say no, in any situation you need to say no, and you can confidently say no, and no reason. No more worrying about whether people will not like what you say. Every time you say no, you are helping you become a determined person.

Being assertive means not only standing up for your own rights, but also taking into account the feelings of others and often encouraging them to be assertive as well. A person who is confident, calm and determined is also kind and considerate.

When you become assertive, your personality doesn't change - you just become more like the person you've always wanted to be. When you become assertive, you stop worrying and your life is much easier - because you know you can deal with things when they happen.

Learn to be assertive in your opinions, stop worrying about whether people won't like what you have to say, and you'll feel more confident and happier. You will no longer say yes because you are afraid of the consequences of saying no, and you will become a more authentic version of yourself.

Author:

Sue Hadfield has taught English in comprehensive schools for 20 years and runs courses and workshops on assertiveness in schools for students, staff and parents. For over a decade, she has taught adults at the University of Sussex and in community organisations on assertiveness, creative writing, study skills, career and personal development. She believes that determination is an important part of a happy, successful and fulfilling life.

Gill Hasson has been working with people from different backgrounds and in different situations. Her main motivation stems from her belief in people's ability to positively change the way they think - about life, about others, and about themselves. As well as running adult education courses on personal development in Brighton, she teaches learning skills at the University of Sussex. Jill provides training in child and adolescent development to preschoolers, young adults, social workers, and parents.

Translator:

Wang Youfeng is an associate professor of translation at the School of Foreign Languages, East China Normal University. He has translated "Live Sober", "Girl, You are Good Enough", "Learn How to Learn" and other works.