内容简介

　　故事的主角艾莉本来是一个很单纯的女孩，无论是感情还是工作，她从不吝啬付出，总希望能当一个不给人添麻烦、被多数人认可的人，也期待着他人的爱与包容，为此她一直非常小心地要求自己。

　　直到有一天，她发现自己的付出换来的是忽视、打压、背叛和强迫，她委屈地想：我一直这么努力，我得到了什么？又为了什么？

　　正在艾莉迷茫的时候，她遇到了一位智慧的年长女性苏青，就此踏上了一段自我蜕变的觉醒之旅。

　　作者极具巧思地在苏青与艾莉的对话中渗透了萨提亚模式治疗理论，在日常生活场景中完成探索与改变，随着主角艾莉一步步的成长，这趟心灵之旅也在逐渐深入——从觉察自己情绪爆发的开关，到学会合理表达情绪背后的需求；从困于自己内心的小剧场，到学会和他人确认交流；从向外索求无条件的爱，到与自己的各种特质和谐共处；从在冲突中用错误的心理防御机制自我保护，到尊重自己与他人的独特性，真实、不卑不亢地表明立场……

　　我们无法改写过去，但我们可以创造现在和未来。每一个不在内在的创伤与冲突中沉沦、勇敢地为成为更成熟的大人努力的人，都值得拥有更宽广的人生。

　　作者简介

　　胡慧嫚

　　国家二级心理咨询师，国际萨提亚学派认证合格心理咨询师，曾任《心理月刊PSYCHOLOGIES》主编与《ELLE》杂志总编辑。曾获亚洲出版协会（SOPA）卓越报导写作奖。逾20年的时尚杂志工作经验，淬炼出其深刻的观察及探索功力。

　　她曾访谈过1000多位杰出人物，对都会女性的生活、情感与心灵渴望有着深入的观察。擅长以一颗温柔细腻的心倾听，以一双涵容接纳的眼引领陪伴，以温暖正向的语言与方式，将心理学巧妙融进都会大众的生活中。

Content introduction

The protagonist of the story Ellie was originally a very simple girl, whether it is feelings or work, she never stingy pay, always hope to be a person who does not give people trouble, is recognized by the majority of people, but also looking forward to the love and tolerance of others, for which she has been very careful to ask themselves.

Until one day, she found that her pay in exchange for neglect, oppression, betrayal and coercion, she wronged to think: I have been so hard, I get what? And for what?

When Ellie is confused, she met a wise old woman Su Qing, and embarked on a journey of self-transformation awakening.

The author cleverly infiltrated the Satya mode therapy theory in the dialogue between Su Qing and Ellie, and completed the exploration and change in the daily life scenes. With the growth of the protagonist Ellie step by step, this spiritual journey is gradually deepening - from sensing the switch of her emotional outburst to learning to reasonably express the needs behind her emotions; From being trapped in a little theater within oneself, to learning to confirm communication with others; From asking for unconditional love, to living in harmony with your own qualities; From protecting oneself in conflict with faulty psychological defense mechanisms, to respecting the uniqueness of oneself and others, and taking a stand truthfully, without being humble or aggressive...

We cannot rewrite the past, but we can create the present and the future. Everyone who does not wallow in inner trauma and conflict and bravely strives to become a more mature adult deserves a broader life.

About the author

Hu Huiman

He is a national second-level psychological consultant, certified by the International Satya School of Psychology, and has served as editor-in-chief of PSYCHOLOGIES and editor-in-chief of ELLE magazine. He has received the SOPA (Publishing Society of Asia) Award for Excellence in Reporting. More than 20 years of working experience in fashion magazines has honed his profound observation and exploration skills.

She has interviewed more than 1,000 prominent people and has a deep insight into the lives, emotions and spiritual aspirations of urban women. He is good at listening with a gentle and delicate heart, guiding the company with a pair of receptive eyes, and skillfully integrating psychology into the life of the city with warm and positive language and ways.