作品简介

　　一位母亲深情解剖自己50多年的人生，写给天下母亲和女儿的勇气书

　　从原生家庭、夫妻关系、婆媳关系到亲子关系，剖析女性在成长过程中经历的种种艰辛，一针见血，偶有扎心，给了当代女性清醒做自己的认知和底气。

　　囊括女性成长过程中的情感共鸣，从没得选的原生家庭到自我定义的人生

　　身为女性，从出生那一刻开始就被各种标签束缚，很多人成长在原生家庭的遗憾里，作为孩子没有办法选择，但作为成年人我们有的选。当代女性已经意识到“自我”的重要性——先是你自己，才是任何人，所以像爱自己的女儿一样，重新养育自己一回。因为我们爱自己的方式，决定了别人爱我们的方式。

　　年龄、生育、如何平衡家庭和事业，等等，当下被热议话题，作者一一解锁

　　一胎时怀孕读研、二胎襁褓时留学，之后继续读博士后，作者给了女性参考答案，所有事情的最佳时机都是——你想去做的时候。

　　韩国Yes24网络书店9.8分好评

　　一胎孕期中，她读研究生；二胎还在襁褓时，她选择去国外留学；回国后，家人们都觉得她应该工作或者照顾家庭了，她又去读博士后，直至成为一名大学教授。作者郑莲喜从来没有因为世俗对女性的绑架，而放弃做自己，以及对梦想的追求。

　　“丢下两个孩子去留学，你是想离婚吗？”“保姆有她做的好吗？”“自私的妈妈/妻子！”……不绝于耳的杂音，也会让她怀疑“我是一个好妈妈，好妻子吗？”而随后“先是我自己，才是任何人”，即刻让她坚定自己的选择。但是，当她听到25岁的女儿说想要结婚时，心情变得五味杂陈，却又无法向她一一诉说，她觉得女儿把婚姻想象得过于美好，而作为母亲又不能浇灭它；她又怕过去母亲艰苦的模样像阴影般出现在自己的人生那样，她也出现在女儿的人生里。

　　怀着复杂的心情，她解剖了自己过往的人生，于是，有了这本借由写给女儿，其实写给所有母亲和女儿的勇气书。希望这个时代的女性多一些清醒做自己的认知和底气——我们爱自己的方式，决定了别人爱我们的方式，要把自己当女儿重新养育一回。



　　[韩]郑莲喜

　　迄今为止，当了55年女儿，26年妻子、妈妈、儿媳，还有20多年的大学教授（任职于韩国重点国立大学之一——群山国立大学）。

　　为了珍贵的梦想和深爱的家人，她无所畏惧地生活着。但是，当听到25岁的女儿说想要结婚时，她的心里顿时害怕起来，怕过去母亲艰苦的模样像阴影般出现在自己的人生那样，她也出现在女儿的人生里。

　　于是，她提笔写下《我希望我女儿活得自私》，希望心爱的女儿和这个时代无数的女儿，都能用以自我为中心的思考方式去过人生，将“自己的幸福”放在首位。

Introduction of works

A mother affectionately dissects her more than 50 years of life and writes a book of courage for mothers and daughters all over the world

From the family of origin, the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the parent-child relationship, the analysis of all kinds of hardships experienced by women in the growth process, hit the nail on the head, occasionally prick the heart, giving contemporary women the awareness and confidence to be clear and do their own.

It covers the emotional resonance of women growing up, from their unchosen family of origin to their self-defined lives

As a woman, from the moment of birth has been bound by various labels, many people grow up in the regret of the family of origin, as a child there is no way to choose, but as an adult we have a choice. Modern women have realized the importance of "self" - yourself before anyone else, so re-nurture yourself like you love your own daughter. Because the way we love ourselves determines the way others love us.

Age, fertility, how to balance family and career, etc., are currently hot topics, the author unlocked one by one

When a child is pregnant to graduate school, when the second child is a baby to study abroad, and then continue to read postdoctoral, the author gives women reference answers, the best time for everything is - when you want to do it.

Korea's Yes24 online bookstore scored 9.8

During her first pregnancy, she attended graduate school; When her second child was an infant, she chose to study abroad; After returning to China, her family felt that she should work or take care of the family, and she went on to do postdoctoral studies until she became a university professor. The author Zheng Lianxi has never given up being herself and pursuing her dreams because of the abduction of women by the secular world.

"Leaving two children to study abroad, do you want a divorce?" "Is the nanny as good as she is?" "Selfish mom/wife!" ... The constant noise will also make her wonder "Am I a good mother and wife?" And then, "first myself, before anyone else," immediately made her firm in her choice. However, when she heard her 25-year-old daughter say that she wanted to get married, the mood became mixed, but she could not tell her one by one, she felt that her daughter imagined marriage too beautiful, and as a mother could not douse it; She was afraid of the past mother's tough appearance like a shadow in her own life, she also appeared in her daughter's life.

With mixed feelings, she dissected her past life, so she had this book of courage written for her daughter, in fact, for all mothers and daughters. I hope that women in this era have more awareness and confidence to be themselves - the way we love ourselves determines the way others love us, and we should re-nurture ourselves as daughters.

[Han] Zheng Lianxi

So far, she has been a daughter for 55 years, a wife, mother, and daughter-in-law for 26 years, and a professor at Gunsan National University, one of Korea's major national universities, for more than 20 years.

She lived fearlessly for the sake of her cherished dreams and her beloved family. However, when she heard her 25-year-old daughter say that she wanted to get married, her heart was suddenly afraid, afraid that her mother's tough appearance in the past appeared like a shadow in her own life, she also appeared in her daughter's life.

So, she wrote "I hope my daughter lives selfishly", hoping that her beloved daughter and countless daughters in this era can live life in a self-centered way of thinking and put "their own happiness" in the first place.