《真想让我爱的人读读这本书》内容简介
用成年的力量，重新养育童年的自己。
既温柔又犀利的心理治疗师、百万畅销书《真希望我父母读过这本书》作者菲利帕·佩里写给成年人的心理疗愈问答书。
如果你人生中有未完成的事件——来不及告别的人，得不到的回应，未被满足的需求，内心没有解决的冲突——试试在房间中放两把椅子，你坐其中一把，另一把留给未完成事件中的人（或者是你的一部分自我）。想象那个人坐在空椅子上，把你的感受、情绪和想法都告诉他。然后，你再坐在他的椅子上，想象你现在变成了他，用你想象他会对你说的话，来回应你刚才坐的那把椅子（也就是你自己）。
童年时的我们为了保护自己，发展出了相应的适应能力和防御机制，比如乖巧、懂事、警觉、讨好。然而，当我们长大成人后，儿童式的生存机制不再适用于成年人的生活，甚至会带来创伤和阻碍，留下一桩桩“未完成的事件”。
在这本温暖人心的书中，心理治疗师菲利帕·佩里用温柔又犀利的回答，帮助读者看见自己，觉察自己，给未完成的事件逐一画上句号。
感谢童年时代拼力保护我们的自己，现在，让我们用成年的力量，再重新养育一次童年的自己。
作者简介
菲利帕·佩里（PhilippaPerry）
心理治疗师、《观察家报》专栏作家、自由撰稿人、电视和广播节目主持人。2019年出版畅销书《真希望我父母读过这本书》，已被翻译成40多种语言。另著有《沙发上的心理学》和《如何保持理智》（HowtoStaySane）。
现与丈夫格雷森爵士（SirGrayson）以及猫咪“尊敬的凯文”（TheHonourableKevin）一起住在伦敦。
I Really want Someone I love to read this book
Use the power of adulthood to re-nurture your childhood self.
A healing Q&A for adults by Philippa Perry, gentle and sharp psychotherapist and author of the million-seller I Wish My Parents Had Read This Book.
If you have unfinished business in your life -- people you didn't get to say goodbye to, unanswered responses, unmet needs, unresolved internal conflicts -- try putting two chairs in a room, one for you and one for the person (or part of yourself) involved in the unfinished business. Imagine the person sitting in an empty chair and tell them all about your feelings, emotions, and thoughts. Then, you sit in his chair again and imagine that you are now him, responding to the chair you just sat in (i.e., yourself) with what you imagine he would say to you.
In order to protect ourselves in childhood, we have developed corresponding adaptive abilities and defense mechanisms, such as being clever, sensible, alert, and agreeable. However, when we become adults, the child-like survival mechanism no longer applies to adult life, and even brings trauma and obstacles, leaving a pile of "unfinished business."
In this heartwarming book, psychotherapist Philippa Perry uses gentle and sharp answers to help readers see themselves, become aware of themselves, and put a full stop to unfinished business.
Thanks to the efforts of childhood to protect our own, now, let us use the power of adulthood, and re-nurture the childhood of their own.
About the author
PhilippaPerry
Psychotherapist, Observer columnist, freelance writer, TV and radio presenter. The best-selling book I Wish My Parents Had Read This Book was published in 2019 and has been translated into more than 40 languages. He is also the author of "Psychology on the Couch" and "HowtoStaySane."
He now lives in London with his husband SirGrayson and his cat, TheHonourableKevin.
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