《爱的冲突》[内容简介]

　　为什么吵架更频繁的新婚夫妻往往会有更长久的婚姻？不同冲突类型的伴侣如何通过改变争吵方式来深化关系？当争吵陷入僵局，我们又该如何化解？

　　婚姻大师戈特曼夫妇基于50多年的研究和实践成果，以及新近一项涵盖4万对伴侣的国际研究发现，冲突是伴侣们寻求治疗的首要原因，也是建立更紧密的关系、更深层次联系和持久爱情的契机。一对伴侣争吵的方式，将直接预示他们关系的未来。

　　书中为我们揭示了冲突背后的真相、3大典型冲突类型，以及人人都会在冲突中犯的5种错误，比如“扔炸弹”、反复拉扯、非赢不可，并提出了一系列简明有效的行动指南，帮助伴侣把关系拉回正轨的同时，逐步建立更健康、更长久的关系。

　　作者简介

　　[美]朱莉·施瓦茨·戈特曼&约翰·戈特曼

　　惠泽全球的两性心理学伉俪

　　戈特曼夫妇研究亲密关系50多年，已完成追踪时间超20年的12项针对3000对伴侣的深入研究，戈特曼方法直接培训了近6万名临床医生，已使超38个国家1000万人以上受益。

　　人际关系领域非常杰出的心理学者

　　约翰是美国华盛顿大学心理学名誉教授，4次荣获美国国家心理健康研究所科学研究者奖章，并获美国婚姻与家庭治疗协会杰出科学研究者奖章、美国家庭治疗学会杰出贡献奖、美国心理协会家庭心理学分会会长奖章。朱莉是享有广泛声誉的临床心理学家，获评华盛顿州年度心理学家，获得美国陆军颁发的感谢状，和约翰共同获得《美国心理治疗网络》终身成就奖，共同被《大西洋月刊》评为“稳固婚姻的著名专家”。

　　·齐名罗杰斯、荣格的心理治疗大师

　　约翰和罗杰斯、荣格共同被《美国心理治疗网络》《美国心理学家》杂志评为20世纪zui后25年间，美国心理治疗师眼中10位zui具影响力的心理治疗大师之一。

The Conflict of Love [Content Introduction]

Why do newlyweds who fight more often tend to have longer marriages? How can couples with different conflict types deepen their relationship by changing the way they argue? When an argument reaches an impasse, how do we resolve it?

Based on more than 50 years of research and practice, and a recent international study of 40,000 couples, the Gottmans found that conflict is the number one reason couples seek therapy, as well as an opportunity to build closer relationships, deeper connections and lasting love. The way a couple argues is a direct predictor of the future of their relationship.

The book reveals the truth behind conflict, the three typical types of conflict, and the five mistakes everyone makes in conflict, such as "dropping bombs," repeatedly pulling, and having to win, and offers a series of simple and effective action guides to help couples get back on track while building healthier, longer relationships.

About the author

Julie Schwartz Gottman & John Gottman

Benefit couples of gender psychology around the world

The Gottmans have studied intimate relationships for more than 50 years, completed 12 in-depth studies of 3,000 couples followed for more than 20 years, and directly trained nearly 60,000 clinicians, benefiting more than 10 million people in more than 38 countries.

A very prominent psychologist in the field of human relations

He is a four-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Scientific Investigator Medal, the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Distinguished Scientific Investigator Medal, the American Family Therapy Association Distinguished Contribution Award, and the American Psychological Association Division of Family Psychology President's Medal. Julie is a widely respected clinical psychologist, named Washington State Psychologist of the Year, received a certificate of appreciation from the U.S. Army, shared a lifetime Achievement award with John from the American Psychotherapy Network, and was named a "Leading expert on Strong Marriages" by The Atlantic Monthly.

· A master of psychotherapy named after Rogers and Jung

John, along with Rogers and Jung, was named one of the 10 most influential psychotherapy masters in the eyes of American psychotherapists in the last 25 years of the 20th century by the American Psychotherapy Network and the American Psychologist magazine.