《假努力》内容简介

　　这是一本专为想要努力提升、自我成长，却因为在方法、认知上“拧巴”，而无法达成目标的人写的书。

　　方向不对，你就生活在一个”不公平“的世界：天道未必酬勤，水滴未必石穿，量变未必质变！解决工作学习、人际关系、认知提升3大领域的“无用功”，才能让每一次努力都获得应有的回报！

　　本书直面17种“假努力”模式：

　　只想“证明”自己行，从不“努力”让自己行；

　　死磕”自控力“，却忘记了自己的目标是前进；

　　爱别人全凭主观想象，而不是爱他如他所是；

　　不断牺牲自己让别人满意，却越讨好越缺爱；

　　拼命向外寻求真理，而不向内打破固有认知；

　　为了自信努力成长，却在成为别人的路上愈发自卑,等等。

　　本书涉及学习方法、自律、目标管理、心灵疗愈、人际沟通、自卑、人生观建立等8大维度，解析原因、给出方法，让每一个想要努力的读者找到方向，实现自我成长。

　　作者简介

　　滑洋

　　当当心理领域影响力作家、资深心理咨询师。

　　原创视频创作者，全平台粉丝30W+。16+自媒体平台，7个自媒体奖项，覆盖主流自媒体平台，小红书、知乎、头条、百家号、B站、微博……

　　现于广州开办滑洋心理咨询中心，致力于将疗愈带给千万个心灵。

　　另著有《不去讨好任何人》，提出SELF心理自助疗法，堪称“讨好型人格自救指南”，已被引进港澳台、韩国、越南翻译发售。

　　专业背景：参与第二届欧洲精神分析联盟基本精神分析概念研讨项目，先后师从世界顶级催眠大师斯蒂芬·吉利根(PhD.StephenGilligan)，北京师范大学国际学术中心“海普诺斯（Hypnosis）疗法研究中心”负责人马春树，系统学习美国催眠促进学院（HMI）课程，专注个人成长、认知提升领域的研究。

　　初心与使命：将疗愈带给千万个心灵，是我想要带给世界的礼物！

"Fake Effort" content introduction

This is a book designed for people who want to work hard to improve and grow themselves, but cannot achieve their goals because of "twisting the bar" in methods and cognition.

If the direction is not right, you will live in an "unfair" world: the way of heaven may not pay diligence, the water drop may not wear through stone, and the quantity may not change in quality! Solve the "useless work" in the three major areas of work and study, interpersonal relations, and cognitive improvement, so that every effort can get the due return!

The book confronts 17 models of "fake effort" :

I only want to "prove" that I can do, never "try" to make myself do;

Obsessing over your "self-control" but forgetting that your goal is to move forward;

To love someone by imagination, not as he is;

Constantly sacrifice yourself to satisfy others, but the more please the less love;

Desperately seeking the truth outwards, instead of breaking the established knowledge inwards;

In order to grow up with self-confidence, but on the way to become someone else more and more inferior, and so on.

This book involves eight dimensions, such as learning methods, self-discipline, goal management, spiritual healing, interpersonal communication, inferiority, and the establishment of life outlook, analyzing the reasons and giving the methods, so that every reader who wants to work hard can find the direction and realize self-growth.

About the author

Sliding ocean

Dangdang influential writer in the field of psychology, senior psychological consultant.

Original video creator, all platform fans 30W+. 16+ we-media platforms, 7 we-media awards, covering mainstream we-media platforms, XiaoHongshu, Zhihu, Toutiao, hundreds, B station, Weibo...

Now in Guangzhou opened the Slide Ocean psychological counseling center, committed to bringing healing to thousands of hearts.

Another book is "Not to please anyone", proposed SELF psychological self-help therapy, called "please type personality self-help guide", has been introduced to Hong Kong, Macao, Taiwan, South Korea, Vietnam translation and sale.

Professional Background: Participated in the 2nd European Psychoanalytic Union Basic Psychoanalytic Concept Seminar Project, and successively studied with the world's top hypnotist StephenGilligan (PhD.StephenGilligan), and Ma Chunshu, head of Hypnosis Therapy Research Center of Beijing Normal University, Systematic study of Hypnosis Promotion Institute (HMI) courses, focusing on the field of personal growth and cognitive improvement.

Original Intention and Mission: Bringing healing to millions of hearts is the gift I want to bring to the world!