作品简介

　　新年和生活美学家、作家曾焱冰开启一场“接纳不完美”、发现爱的旅程

　　重新认知你的“精神内耗”

　　“不够好”“不完美”的焦虑只是“消极的完美主义”

　　不断更新自己，敢于追逐喜欢的事，无论成败，都是新的遇见和成长，而非一次次与旧我重逢。

　　生活也需要高效管理，由此获得的时间用来好好生活

　　时间管理、精力管理、情绪管理、屏蔽生活中的诸多“噪声”

　　分享优雅从容生活的56种基本生活法则

　　生活不只是重复，开启全新的视角，给自己新的遇见、新的成长

　　面对生活中的诸多大问题和小麻烦，找到适合自己的解决之道

　　提供切实可行的方法对生活进行小小的调整，持续遇见更好的自己

　　成年人的世界经常被无来由的低落袭击，对自己失望，无法集中精力，无处安置生活的压力和情绪。我在运营置爱女性社群的过程中也发现，很多女性已经很优秀，却依然被不够美、读书不够多、工作不够好、孩子不够出色、人生不够成功等困扰，心理学家把这称为“消极的完美主义”。曾经，追求“完美”被视为一种美德，是对自己高要求的表现，但在追求完美的过程中，很容易从“对卓越的渴望”变成对“不够好”“不完美”的焦虑。反观我自己又何尝不是呢，我所谓的完美主义不过是目标过高、自信过低、太在乎别人的评价而已。在所谓完美主义的掩盖下，我错过了很多真实的生活，原本早就可以感受到的快乐，迟迟没有体会到。

　　一棵怒放的花树上，有无数被虫食的花朵和即将凋落的树叶，一块良田还分收成的大年小年，太阳和月亮也有阴晴圆缺，人世间的好与坏不过是人们持不同立场的偏见。如果我们无法让自己安于平凡，在追求更高目标时只看重结果，不能认识到“完美”是获得幸福的障碍。

　　在本书中，我将和读者一起开启一场“接纳不完美”、发现爱的旅程，分享如何通过时间管理、精力管理、情绪管理、屏蔽生活中的诸多“噪声”，用切实可行的方法对生活进行小小的调整，持续遇见更好的自己，也利用这些因高效管理而获得的时间用来好好生活。生活不只是重复，开启全新的视角，给自己新的遇见、新的成长，舍得花时间、花心思对待爱的人，在我们所拥有的唯一的一生中，这些“浪费”必不可少。

　　曾焱冰，作家，置爱生活美学传播机构创办人。资深媒体人，曾任《VOGUE服饰与美容》中国版编辑部主任。研究生活美学及餐桌艺术，关注生活之美与女性成长之美。

　　已出版作品：

　　《爱就是在一起，吃好多好多顿饭》

　　《没完没了的好时光》

　　《生活，朴素且散发光芒》

　　《你是这世间所有的美妙》

Introduction of works

The New Year and life esthetician and writer Jack Zeng are about to embark on a journey of accepting imperfection and discovering love

Rediscover Your "Inner Conflict"

Anxiety about "not being good enough" and "not being perfect" is just "negative perfectionism."

Constantly renew yourself, dare to chase what you like, whether it is success or failure, it is a new encounter and growth, rather than a reunion with the old me.

Life also needs to be managed efficiently, and the resulting time can be used to live well

Time management, energy management, emotional management, shielding many "noises" in life

Share 56 basic rules for living gracefully and calmly

Life is not just repetition, open a new perspective, give yourself new encounters, new growth

In the face of many big problems and small problems in life, find a solution that works for you

Offer practical ways to make small adjustments in your life and continue to meet your better self

The adult world is often struck by unexplained depression, disappointment in oneself, inability to concentrate, and nowhere to place the stresses and emotions of life. In the process of running the love women's community, I also found that many women are already excellent, but they are still not beautiful enough, not enough reading, not good enough work, not good enough children, not enough success in life, and so on, psychologists call this "negative perfectionism." Once, the pursuit of "perfection" was seen as a virtue, a performance of high demands on oneself, but in the pursuit of perfection, it is easy to change from "the desire for excellence" to "not good enough" and "not perfect" anxiety. The same is true of myself. My so-called perfectionism is just too high goals, too low self-confidence, and too concerned about the evaluation of others. Under the cover of the so-called perfectionism, I missed a lot of real life, and the happiness that could have been felt long ago was delayed.

On a flowering tree there are countless worm-eaten flowers and leaves about to fall; on a good field there are years of harvest; on the sun and moon there are waxes and wanes; the good and the bad in the world are nothing but the prejudices of people who hold different positions. If we can't reconcile ourselves to the ordinary, focus only on results in pursuit of higher goals, and fail to recognize that "perfection" is an obstacle to happiness.

In this book, I will start a journey of "accepting imperfection" and discovering love with readers, sharing how to manage time, energy, emotion, block out many "noises" in life, make small adjustments to life in practical ways, continue to meet better selves, and use the time gained by efficient management to live well. Life is not just about repetition, opening up new perspectives, giving yourself new encounters, new growth, giving time and thought to the people you love, in the only life we have, these "wastes" are essential.

Zeng Yanbing is a writer and founder of Love Life Aesthetics Communication Agency. She is a senior media professional and former editorial director of VOGUE Fashion & Beauty China. Study the aesthetics of life and table art, pay attention to the beauty of life and the beauty of female growth.

Published works:

Love is being together, eating lots and lots of meals.

The Good Times Never End

"Life, Simple and Radiant"

You are all the beauty in this world.

Public number/Weibo/Little Red book: Set love, Zeng Yanbing