内容简介
当我们身边的人感到痛苦时，我们会非常想说些什么、做些什么来帮助他们，却很容易有不知道如何才能安慰好对方的无力感。
本书作者从心理学家与个人生活经历的双重视角，告诉我们，当我们需要安慰他人时，应从他人的参照系中，去真正地理解他人正在经历的事情，并能够充分地尊重对方的边界，让对方振作起来、变得强大，重拾体验快乐的能力与对未来的希望，而不是让对方产生“我就是个需要被拯救的弱者”“你不相信我有解决问题的能力”“喝热水式的安慰跟没说一样”“你以为的幽默让我感觉你在嘲讽我”之类适得其反的感受。更重要的是，我们每个人都有“创伤后成长”的能力。
安慰一是门可以同频地陪伴他人的艺术，也是我们每个人能接受的来自他人的最珍贵的礼物。
作者简介
[法]克里斯托夫·安德烈（Christophe André）
法国心理学家、精神科医师、畅销书作家。他还在巴黎第十大学教授多门心理学及临床治疗课程，目前在巴黎圣安娜精神院工作。
他著有多本心理学畅销书，每本在法国的销量都超过10万册，他的作品已被翻译成10余种语言，畅销世界各地。代表作有《恰如其分的自尊》《内在疗愈》《生活中的心理学》《面对的勇气》等。
Content introduction
When someone around us is in pain, we want to say something and do something to help them, but it's easy to feel powerless and don't know how to comfort them.
From the dual perspective of psychologists and personal life experiences, the author of this book tells us that when we need to comfort others, we should truly understand what others are going through from the frame of reference of others, and be able to fully respect each other's boundaries, so that each other can cheer up, become strong, and regain the ability to experience happiness and hope for the future. Instead of making the other person have "I am a weak person who needs to be saved", "you do not believe that I have the ability to solve the problem", "drinking hot water comfort is the same as not saying", "your thought humor makes me feel like you are mocking me" and other counterproductive feelings. What's more, each of us has the capacity for post-traumatic growth.
Comfort is the art of being with others at the same time, and it is the most precious gift each of us can receive from others.
About the author
[Fa] Christophe Andre
French psychologist, psychiatrist and best-selling author. He has also taught several courses in psychology and clinical therapy at the University of Paris X, and currently works at the Saint Anna Psychiatric Hospital in Paris.
He is the author of several best-selling psychology books, each of which has sold more than 100,000 copies in France, and his works have been translated into more than 10 languages and sold worldwide. His masterpieces include "Proper Self-esteem", "Inner Healing", "Psychology in Life", "Courage to Face" and so on.
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