作品简介

　　是什么阻止了真爱向前一步的勇气？是什么让爱总在徘徊犹豫中消失在风中？是什么让两个相爱的人始终逃避彼此？是什么妨碍了我们为爱前行的脚步？明明是一个如此清晰明朗的人，为什么就成了“恋爱脑”呢？

　　单身的模式有很多种，本书选择了其中最常见的九种与大家共同面对，并且围绕每一种单身模式介绍了一个以该种单身模式者为主人公的故事。通过本书，读者可以学习在亲密关系中各个单身模式者会有什么样的表现和感受；他们幻想与之共同进入亲密关系的对象会有什么样的表现和感受；他们为什么会有这些表现；他们应该如何迈出第一步。本书期待每个希望进入亲密关系的人可以为爱找到出路。

　　此外，针对每一种单身模式，作者都精选了一部影视剧作品，为读者深入理解该单身模式提供了参考资源。

　　本书适合所有憧憬进入亲密关系而不知如何迈出第一步、在恋爱关系中遭遇问题而感到焦虑的人，能够帮助读者了解自己，理解恋人，懂得爱情。

　　段鑫星

　　700万次的“恋爱心理学”慕课主讲人，该课课被新华网、人民日报、中青报、头条等30多家媒体平台推荐

　　中国矿业大学公共管理学院前院长/教授、北京师范大学发展与教育心理学博士。

　　已获省级教学奖励4项，2007年全国大学生心理健康教育先进个人，2016年江苏省大学生心理健康教育突出贡献奖。

　　现有5部著作、4部教材、8部编著作品、15部译作，《如何拥抱一只刺猬：恋爱与婚姻中的人格识别、接纳与付出》，《最熟悉的陌生人:自我认知和潜能发现之旅》《恋爱心理必修课》等作品也一直备受好评。

　　近年来每年在高校、企事业单位讲座百余场。开设段鑫星心理课堂，坚持线上咨询与线下辅导相结合，并创办“爱心理微课堂”。

Introduction of works

What stops true love from having the courage to lean in? What is it that makes love always disappear in the wind while hesitating? What makes two people who love each other keep running away from each other? What keeps us from moving forward with love? Clearly is such a clear and clear person, why become a "love brain"?

There are many modes of being single, and this book chooses nine of the most common ones to face with you, and introduces a story about each mode of being single. Through this book, readers can learn how each single model behaves and feels in intimate relationships; They fantasize about how the person with whom they enter an intimate relationship will behave and feel; Why they behave the way they do; How they should take the first step. This book expects everyone who wishes to enter into intimate relationships to find a way out for love.

In addition, for each single mode, the author has selected a film and television drama to provide a reference for readers to understand the single mode in depth.

This book is suitable for all those who want to enter into intimate relationships but do not know how to take the first step, and feel anxious about the problems encountered in the relationship, and can help readers understand themselves, understand lovers, and understand love.

Duan Xinxing

7 million times "Love Psychology" MOOCs lecturer, the course has been Xinhuanet, People's Daily, Youth Daily, Toutiao and other more than 30 media platforms recommended

Former Dean/Professor, School of Public Administration, China University of Mining and Technology, PhD in Developmental and Educational Psychology, Beijing Normal University.

He has won four provincial teaching awards, the 2007 National Advanced Individual in Mental health Education for college students, and the 2016 Outstanding Contribution Award for mental health education for college students in Jiangsu Province.

He has five books, four textbooks, eight edited works and 15 translated works, including How to Embrace a Hedgehog: Personality Recognition, Acceptance and Giving in Love and Marriage, The Most Familiar Stranger: A Journey of Self-Recognition and Potential Discovery, and a Required Course in Love Psychology.

In recent years, he has given more than 100 lectures in universities, enterprises and institutions every year. Set up Duan Xinxing psychological class, adhere to the combination of online consultation and offline counseling, and set up "love psychological micro class".