内容简介

　　时代的风潮、广泛的焦虑，导致女性的自恋现象日益严重。但首先需要说明的是自恋并不是一种疾病，它是一种对严苛环境的适应，是一种隐藏真实自我的方式。

　　为什么有的人外表出众，却还要去整容抽脂？

　　为什么很多人在拍照时，一定要用美颜滤镜？

　　为什么有些人总是在情感上陷入两难一选择——亲密时，会害怕受伤害；选择远离时，又害怕孤单？

　　这是因为她们都有不同程度的自恋型人格障碍，她们想用成功、金钱、别人的认可来弥补自我价值感的缺失，她们表现得理智、坦率，却都有深度的不安全感和自卑感。

　　资深心理治疗师贝贝尔·瓦德茨基认为，自恋型人格障碍往往有着严重的自我怀疑与自卑的特征，光鲜亮丽的自信外表常常只是用以隐藏内心的不安。在本书中，她从大量的女性案例出发，融合温尼科特、荣格等多个著名流派的理论学说，将女性自恋的表现分为8个方面：体重、饮食、外貌、对孩子的自恋利用、成就感、自尊感、渴望承认与亲密关系，并深入分析自恋型人格障碍产生的原因——“原始人际关系”的影响。

　　受自恋型人格障碍困扰的人们从未触达真实的自我。本书是为所有女性所写，希望有过此类困扰的女性能够通过本书更好地理解并接受她们的自恋障碍，也希望所有女性都能够学会接纳和拥抱自我，重塑独立人格，挣脱自恋的枷锁。

　　作者简介

　　贝贝尔.瓦德茨基博士

　　从业40多年的资深心理治疗师和督导师。

　　曾于格吕嫩巴赫心身医学诊所担任心理治疗师长达9年，其间专攻成瘾行为的相关研究，尤其关注饮食失调和自恋型人格障碍。随后前往慕尼黑开展专业心理治疗工作至今。

　　著有如《那不是你的问题》《如何克服羞耻感》《如何克服被抛弃感》等多本心理学畅销书，全球销量超30万册。本书《不稳定的自尊》初版于1991年，至今30余年，持续畅销多国，而本次修订版另新增以互联网为大舞台的相关自恋型人格障碍研究内容，以保障书本内容的时效性与全面性。

Content introduction

The trend of The Times and widespread anxiety have led to the increasingly serious phenomenon of female narcissism. But the first thing to note is that narcissism is not a disease, it is an adaptation to a harsh environment and a way of hiding your true self.

Why do some people get plastic surgery and liposuction when they look so good?

Why do many people use beauty filters when taking photos?

Why do some people always have an emotional dilemma -- fear of being hurt when they are close; When you choose to stay away, are you afraid of being alone?

This is because they all have varying degrees of narcissistic personality disorder, they want to use success, money, other people's recognition to make up for the lack of self-worth, they behave rationally and frankly, but all have deep insecurity and inferiority.

According to veteran psychotherapist Bebel Wadzky, narcissistic personality disorder is often characterized by severe self-doubt and low self-esteem, and the glossy appearance of confidence is often just a way to hide inner insecurity. In this book, she starts from a large number of female cases, integrates the theories of many famous schools such as Winnicott and Jung, and divides the performance of female narcissism into eight aspects: Weight, diet, physical appearance, narcissistic exploitation of children, sense of accomplishment, self-esteem, desire for recognition and intimacy, and in-depth analysis of the cause of narcissistic personality disorder - the impact of "primal interpersonal relationships."

People with narcissistic personality disorder never touch their true selves. This book is written for all women, hoping that women who have had such problems can better understand and accept their narcissism disorder through this book, and hope that all women can learn to accept and embrace themselves, rebuild independent personality, and break free from the shackles of narcissism.

About the author

Dr. Bebel Wadtsky

Experienced psychotherapist and supervisor for more than 40 years.

He worked as a psychotherapist for 9 years at the Grunenbach Psychosomatic Medical Clinic, where he specialized in addictive behaviors, with a particular focus on eating disorders and narcissistic personality disorder. He then went to Munich to carry out professional psychotherapy work until now.

He is the author of several best-selling books in psychology such as "That's Not Your Problem", "How to Overcome Shame" and "How to Overcome Abandonment", and has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide. The book "Unstable self-esteem" was first published in 1991, so far more than 30 years, continued to sell well in many countries, and this revised edition added the Internet as a big stage related to narcissistic personality disorder research content, in order to ensure the timeliness and comprehensiveness of the book content.